The busy continues, so I hope you’ll forgive the recent Vagina News trend toward shorter, less frequent posts. They’ll get longer and more frequent sooner or later. (Pun away!)
In the last 24 hours, I’ve been informed about a book by a Real Housewife of whogivesashit that advocates marital rape, and a food blog written by a NY gossip columnists about how she makes sandwiches for her boyfriend as often as possible because he once said if she made him 300 sandwiches, he’d get her an engagement ring. (I refuse to post links to either because they don’t deserve the linkjuice, but if you’re desperate for outrage or to judge someone, they’re on Jezebel.)
Instead, I’m posting this – the male version of Dove’s ‘Campaign for Real Beauty’ (which was problematic for all kinds of reasons that I’m not gonna get into now.)
Obviously we as a culture don’t sexualize men’s bodies the way we do women’s, and men enjoy a MUCH broader cultural definition of attractiveness than women do… But since the first Calvin Klein boxer-briefs billboard went up in Times Square in 1983, men have been increasingly bombarded by unattainable physical ideas through advertising and media. So let’s spread the ‘real beauty’ love around.
We love men here at Vagina News, and think gender-based employment discrimination shouldn’t happen to them either.
So we’re thrilled (we think) to report that one company division is loosening it’s defacto ladies-only employment policy…
The Butterball Turkey Talk Line.
Bust out your basters, boys.
Today’s Vagina News is one of those topics that digs up deep, often subconscious, culturally learned sexism, which for me is is akin to the feeling of yanking up a weed’s deepest roots from the garden. (For you non-gardeners, it’s REALLY satisfying.)
Toplessness. When I first saw this article, I admit I thought, ‘don’t we have bigger feminist fish to fry?’ But it turns out you only have to spend a few minutes talking about laws and practices regarding toplessness before you arrive at some pretty fundamental questions; What public interest is served by the government enforcing different legal standards for male and female toplessness? Who is the government allegedly protecting, and from what? (Women from men? Children from… Breasts?) Doesn’t a main argument in support of public breastfeeding – that there’s nothing inherently indecent about female breasts – apply equally to the matter of female toplessness? And if ‘cultural norms’ dictate that female breasts are somehow dangerous or indecent, isn’t it time to change those norms rather than grudgingly capitulate to them?
While reading the Atlantic article, I realized that on some level, my gut reaction is to think, ‘yes, duh, women have boobs, men don’t, there’s a difference.’ But when I bring some awareness to it, obviously there are lots of men who could fill a ‘C’ cup, and lots of women who barely need an ‘AA’… It’s not a size thing. So what’s the difference? As far as I can tell, it’s a) milk production capability, and b) cultural hypersexualization. Neither of which is a sound basis for making something illegal.
Long-time readers (I mean, it’s only been a little over a year) might remember the 2009 case of an 18-year-old California woman who woke up to someone having sex with her, thought momentarily it was her boyfriend, and quickly realized it wasn’t. The rapist was caught and tried, and was convicted of rape based on a state law that says knowingly having sex with a sleeping person is rape because a sleeping person cannot consent. But an appeals court overturned that ruling based on a standing 1872 law that said acquiring sexual consent by impersonating a woman’s husband is rape, but fails to set the same standard for impersonating a known sexual partner of an unmarried woman.
There was an effort to change the law in 2011, but it stalled in committee. This week, California Governor Jerry Brown fixed the problem, and the appeals court has granted a retrial.
Today’s Vagina News is actually a post on my acting blog about getting fat-shamed by Cloris Leachman, which is a real thing that happened to me this week. Enjoy!
The word “brotherhood” gets misused a lot to describe the people who risked their lives to help in the wake of the tragedy of September 11, 2001. So today, Vagina News pays tribute to the women who are too often forgotten in remembrances of 9/11.
One of those women was Captain Brenda Berkman, who joined the New York Fire Department in 1982 after leading and winning a landmark class action gender discrimination case against the department.
So while we remember that terrible day, let’s remember ALL of the people who helped, and suffered, and made a difference.
Taking the Heat – Documentary about the first female New York firefighters
Beyond Bravery – Soledad O’Brien’s 2011 documentary about the women of 9/11
We all (hopefully) know that women earn less than men for doing equivalent work. (There are debates about how much less, but that’s a digression.)
But did you know the same goes for little kids?
As this excellent article explains, numerous studies have shown that:
- Little girls spend an average of two more hours per week doing chores than little boys do; little boys spend those two hours playing.
- In households where children are financially compensated for doing chores, little girls are paid less than little boys, and traditionally female chores are given lower monetary value than traditionally male chores.
- 75% of little girls are expected to complete housework chores, versus 65% of little boys.
Compounding the issue, as traditionally female chores tend to take place inside home (like folding and dishwashing) whereas traditionally male chores take place outside the home (like mowing the lawn and taking out the trash,) work done by women is often unseen, and consequently undervalued.
Those disparities carry into adulthood all over the world.