Gay Men’s Sexism and Women’s Bodies

It’s one of those days on which I don’t have a time to write a lengthy intro to this article, but if I did, it would have the word ‘intersectionality’ in it.

It’s called Gay Men’s Sexism and Women’s Bodies, it’s on the wonderful GoodMenProject.com, and it talks about some of the very common and oft unacknowledged ways that misogyny manifests in platonic relationships between women and gay men. (Homophobia shows up in these relationships as well, that just isn’t the subject of this particular article.)

I do have time to write this… Someone/something can be sexist/misogynist and not be based in sexual attraction or fit our conventional picture of what sexism or misogyny look and feel like.

Great article. Please read, discuss, & share.

Link

Steubenville Followup from The New Yorker

I’ve been swamped this week, Vagina News friends, but wanted to share this article.

It’s long, and problematic in lots of ways, but it does a good job of a few things:

  • Explaining what rape culture is, and that yes, it exists
  • Providing several examples of ongoing protectionism and victim-blaming in Steubenville
  • Illustrating the complicated nature of misogyny and rape culture, in which there are rarely clear ‘good guys’ and ‘bad guys’ 

I look forward to hearing your thoughts.

“You’re never going to be a looker”

While you wouldn’t know it from the media coverage, Andy Murray was not the only person to win a Grand Slam title at Wimbledon this weekend – Marion Bartoli did it too. (No, not Mario Batali. I did the same thing.)

During her match, BBC sports reporter John Inverdale mused, 
“Do you think Bartoli’s dad told her when she was little, ‘You’re never going to be a looker? You’ll never be a Sharapova, so you have to be scrappy and fight?'” 

Response to Bartoli’s win on social media was rife with complaints and even threats of violence because fans didn’t find her physically attractive.

Suffice it to say, the same discussion was not had about the relative attractiveness of the male competitors.

The excellent Twitter account @EverydaySexism shared Bartoli’s response.

Fifty Shades of Infuriating

Ok, this PISSES ME OFF.

The two candidates for US Senate in
New York are women. During their debate on Wednesday night, both were asked if
they’d read ‘Fifty Shades of Grey.’

Kirstin Gillibrand graduated magna cum
laude from Dartmouth, speaks Mandarin Chinese, and is an attorney who clerked for
the Second US Court of Appeals. She heads the Women’s Leadership Forum for the
DNC and served as special counsel for the Secretary of HUD during the Clinton administration.

In 2006, she beat a 4-term Republican incumbent to represent her district in
the US House of Representatives, and was reelected in 2008. When Hillary
Clinton was appointed Secretary of State, Gillibrand was appointed to fill her
US Senate seat, and won the 2010 special election to keep it. She was the first
member of Congress to publish her official schedule, earmark requests, and
personal financial statement. In 2008, she became the sixth woman to have a
child while serving in Congress, and worked up until the day of her delivery.

Wendy Long has never served in public office, so there’s
less information available about her. But she studied at Dartmouth,
Northwestern, and Harvard. She’s also an attorney who worked for two Senators
and for two courts, the Second Circuit Court of Appeals in New York, and
Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas.

So why ask these two candidates, these particular two, if
they’ve read this book? I’ll tell you what I think the answer is. Because we as
a society are still unable to de-sexualize women long enough to take them
seriously as professionals. Because we are both titillated by reminding women
of this, and ashamed of ourselves for feeling that way. We want them to say yes
so we can think of them as dirty, and we want them to say no so we can think of
them as ‘good’. We are collectively caught up in a cultural ‘madonna/whore’
fantasy that leaves us with a political process that’s about as mature as an
episode of Beavis and Butthead.

I dearly hope some renegade debate moderator in the next
week asks two male candidates somewhere if they read Penthouse, and brings this
shit up when people freak out.

http://thinkprogress.org/alyssa/2012/10/18/1043261/kristen-gillibrand-wendy-long-fifty-shades-of-grey/

Facebook has a big problem. Misogyny.

That word gets thrown around a lot, so I looked it up to make sure I’m using it right. It means hatred of women or girls. A serious accusation. So why do I aim it at Facebook?

They take down photos of breastfeeding because they violate company policy on content containing nudity.

They do not take down pages or profiles with the following
names, despite their policy against content that is threatening, hateful, or
that incites violence:

– [Satire] Kicking a slut in the vagina and losing your foot
inside

– [Humor] Roses are red, violets are blue… I’ve got a knife,
get in the van

– I kill bitches

– Seeing a Pregnant Woman and Wanting to Punch Her In the
Face

Defending that, while refusing to tolerate images of women
using their bodies to love and nurture another, sounds like the very definition
of hatred to me.

To learn more and help make your voice heard, Google
‘Facebook misogyny petition’.

As of this posting, this petition only needs 43 more
e-signatures. I’d love for Vagina News to get it
there. Click and sign.

http://www.change.org/petitions/facebook-ban-misogynistic-pages-even-those-labeled-controversial-humor